And no, I'm not pointing fingers at any specific gender. This isn't just an issue of (certain) men thinking that women's lives revolve around them. It's a societal issue that all genders take part in. The fact is that many girls and women actually (*gasp) do things for themselves not not for the attention for men.
I think that a big part of it is how the media portrays relationships. Let's be honest, the vast majority of television and movies about women, still revolves around men. Girls grow up thinking that they need to find Mr. Right. And if they can't? Well that would be a disaster, wouldn't it? Oh, and if you're a girl who isn't into guys, then you're out of luck there. (I hope you sense my sarcasm.)
But I think it's important to realize that many times when girls do things, it's for themselves (and that's completely okay!) There's this notion that if a girl goes out dressed up, she must be doing it for someone else (and by someone, I mean a guy). I myself have been asked many times if I'm going on a date, just because I'm wearing a pair of earrings I like. And in wearing them, I wasn't thinking of anything else except, "These look nice with my outfit. I want to wear them today."
So let's get this straight, to anyone posting these posts up on social media. Good for you. But maybe, just maybe the intention had nothing to do with caring about what guys thought. And so, you're post is a bit pointless there. Of course, some girls might be trying to impress a guy, and that's okay too. But I also think it's important for those girls to know that their worth isn't dependent on whether a guy approves or not.
All in all, it's important to do things for yourself, no matter what your gender is. And it's a good thing. Whoever said that it makes you cocky and full of yourself obviously didn't know what they are talking about. Because a huge part of having a fulfilled life is being happy in your own skin.
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